The month of December is my favorite time of the year. We tend to have more snow as we cozy up near the fireplace; we watch endless Christmas movies, with Christmas decorations and lights sparkling throughout the house. It truly is a magical time to be grateful and merry. I just wish everyone else felt the same way about this time of the year. When I think about Christmas and the holiday season, three things come to mind:
- It is a season to be stressed
- It is a season to be giving
- It is a season to be merry
Today, I will share my thoughts on the stress piece. According to Psychology Today and NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), Holiday Blues is a real thing. Although some of us are feeling the spirit of Christmas, others are experiencing the spirit of loneliness, depression, and stress. The holiday season is a time of joy and celebration, but to some people, it is nothing but. People tend to feel social isolation especially if they don’t have family close by to celebrate with. Others feel the loss of their loved ones during this time of the year more than any other time. While others experience financial stress due to holiday spending. And for some, the time of the year is most difficult when they can’t share it with a significant other.
According to a survey conducted by the American Psychology Association, even though most people surveyed reported feeling happy, loved and in the Christmas spirit, their feelings were also accompanied by feeling stressed, tired, sad, and even exasperated.
If you are someone who loves the holidays but also feels overwhelmed, tired, lonely, or depressed, know that you are not alone, and also know that there are ways to combat these feelings.
- When you feel lonely, reach out to family and friends. Go for a walk, try to exercise as it boosts mood.
- Set realistic expectations for yourself and those around you. Don’t over commit and stretch yourself thin, share your responsibilities with others. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment. You know what you are capable of.
- Set a budget for your spending and try to stick to it. This has been a stressful year in so many ways, especially financially. There is no need for expensive gifts.
- Most importantly, don’t compare yourself, your situation, and your life with others. Live in the moment and enjoy the present.
Now, if this time of the year brings you nothing but joy, take a moment and think of those around you that don’t share your feelings and reach out to them. Call them, send them a small gesture, or maybe even a prayer. Let them know they are loved, and they matter.
