It is human nature to want to connect with others, to belong somewhere, to be included in plans and activities, to be part of a click or a group. Being invited to a work gathering outside of the office gives us the sense of belonging. Someone reaching out and asking us for advice; gives us the sense of knowledge, we may not know everything, but we know enough to give advice (good or bad). We yearn for the connection because it makes us feel wanted and important, even satisfied and fulfilled at times. Relationships are important, as humans we are defined by our relationships and our connections.
Through relationships we generate inner circles. These circles are a group of exclusive people you have allowed to get close to you, get within your comfort zone. They are individuals that influence your life more than you are aware of. They could stimulate your creativity, impact your decisions, your life choices, even your journey. Most times, the people closest to you encourage you and build you up; however, there are times where you have one or two (sometimes more) who influence you in the wrong direction.
Your journey is about taking control of your life before someone else does. Having bad influences get close to you is something we all do; however, allowing those influences to remain and impact life choices is something that you need to be aware of. People within your inner circle make all the difference when it comes to your growth and overcoming life. They can build you up but, they can also hinder you and even break you down. Don’t hold on to anyone that doesn’t bring you joy or help you grow.
I experienced empowerment when I came to the realization that an individual within my inner circle wasn’t adding much value to my life, that relationship caused me more heartache than joy. I had to make the difficult decision to focus on my growth and my well-being. I can’t pour into others if I’m not full. That experience taught me to be more discerning. I am blessed to have one of the most amazing group of people surround me. I have a spouse that is incredibly supportive, two sisters who have given up so much to help me pursue my calling, and a small group of family and friends that have been there and have encouraged me when I needed it most. They have been my backbone, my support system and my drivers. When I’m feeling down or low, they know exactly how to push me and encourage me to get back up.
Look around, write down the names of those closest to you and weigh how much value they add to you. I’m not telling you to cut people out of your life completely, but I am asking you to be more selective when it comes to those closest to you and their influence and impact on your life. It may seem selfish but in reality it is one step closer to your growth, a step closer to a better YOU.